Just got a text from a friend complaining that his girlfriend wanted to lay out a five-year plan for them. While on the one hand I understand his frustration since I barely know what I'll be eating for dinner tonight, let alone where or what I'll be in five years, I also see things from his girlfriend's point of view now that I'm married and have a baby.
First off, I think things are a little accelerated for them since they're not in their 20's anymore, and perhaps my friend doesn't like where this is headed since he is, shall we say, in 'life transition.'
But I realize this is just some peoples' way of processing info, not wanting to waste time looking into the future with the person they're with (esp if they learn s/he has no ambition) and hoping for a better sense of where they stand with their significant other before they go too far down a path with that person.
However, I see how those who are anti-five-year plan see this: it's unrealistic, unnecessary to think that far down the line and sometimes does more damage than good to a relationship that's sailing along smoothly.
I guess it depends on how you view the plan: as a guideline, or a bunch of decisions set in stone.
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